By Pearson Mbendera
‘Everyman for himself and God for us all’ is one popular saying. Usually it is used when someone has just pulled a selfish stint on other people and gets away with. But is it bad being selfish even to a smaller degree? While we give praise to the most compassion people, sometimes they tend to be the ones who miss out on the goodness of life.
In dating circles, it is believed that ‘Nice guys/girls finish last’ the same can be said about life in general. It’s good to be caring and carry the weight of the world because someone should, but to be honest, worrying about anyone and everyone doesn’t really get you anywhere close to your own dreams.
We live in a competitive world, where the strong ones survive. It’s a dog eat dog world we live in today, if we are too busy eating each other, then clearly there isn’t any time to be selfless. If you aren’t selfish, you just might need to adapt to the new world. The rule of natural selection says the dumb ones die. Without adapting to the ways of the present, you will die and become extinct.
Being selfish doesn’t necessarily mean your way of life makes other people’s lives difficult. We can all co-exist regardless of our lifestyle choices.
The most successful people have made quite a bit of enemies on their way to the top. I’m not saying there isn’t any way to make it big without pissing other people off. I’m just saying stopping on your way to the top so that you can care for everyone else might not be the best thing to do.
Even politicians, who have sworn to serve and protect the masses, have done something out of personal and selfish reasons. So why shouldn’t you do the same. Being a little selfish doesn’t make you a bad person. It just makes you human. We all have selfish ambitions,
I’m not saying go about making people feel bad or treat them like they are nothing. All I am saying is that you need to focus a little more on yourself and what you want to achieve. Giving all your energy on people will make the world a better place, that’s just something given, but sometimes it doesn’t even matter what you do to people, sometimes they don’t even care. Why waste your time on the people who don’t care about what you do to begin with.
So today, ask yourself this question, what is it that you want to achieve, and how do you get there. Not everyone will like what you will want to do and that’s ok. It’s never about them anyway; they won’t like it either if you are all nice to them. That’s just a thing with people. They are good and they are bad, they come like that. But when all is said and done, what you will have accomplished will be able to silence everyone who might have doubted you.
You have to learn to love yourself a little more. Look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see. Most of the time, acting all nice and being more concerned about other people isn’t because you are nice. Sometimes it’s simply because you need public validation. Truth is, you don’t need any validation from anyone but yourself. Do you appreciate yourself? Do you love yourself enough? Because if you love yourself and value yourself, you will do things that will get you closer to your dreams and not care about what other think about yourself.
Other people are too busy being selfish for them to notice what you are about.
I believe we all have different views on this topic. If you are too nice, it’s not all bad. Personally I believe the world needs more people like you. So good job, keep it up. But if being good doesn’t help you sleep better at night, if it doesn’t make the people around you to be nice to you, then why bother. All the energy you will lose trying to please them might be used making the most out of your dreams. Maybe try it both ways and see what works best. If you ask I will tell simply tell you to be a little selfish. But that’s just my opinion, what’s yours?
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