By Pearson Mbendera
We all want to succeed and work hard to attain as much success as we want. The difficult part comes in managing success. To many people they have different views of what success will be, and many times after they become successful, they are shocked about what they see because it’s different from their imagination.
The hardest thing to manage is success for a lot of reasons. First you cannot handle it your own hands. It is different to many people, thus it makes people feel different. It’s always that feeling, born out of our different perceptions of what success really means to us that’s hard to manage.
Secondly, the reason we are successful differs. For people who have been told they won’t amount to anything, sometimes their first thought is that they have to prove a point to the people who doubted them. While this is good, it may make you lose focus on yourself and realise that you have succeeded for the wrong reasons.
There is nothing worse than realizing that you have succeeded for the wrong reasons. That you have made it to the top but it’s not really where you want to be. This usually occurs when you don’t have yourself to consider when embarking on the journey to success.
Some think success will make them more likeable, get more friends, be happy and many other things. But in reality, it might be the opposite. Robin Williams a decorated actor who had millions of dollars to his name and had had a stellar acting career died recently from suicide. It had been revealed that he had suffered from depression and drug addiction over the years. And you wonder what it is that can depress someone so successful and rich?
Truth is, from afar, being successful is best place to be, but if you don’t prepare yourself for what success will bring to you, then you will suffer and wish you were never successful to begin with.
People who attain success for the first time are usually the ones who get consumed by the success they attain and end up losing out to what they would have worked long and hard to attain. To better handle success for the first time, pretend as if you are used to being successful. Pretend as if it’s something normal to you. Its only when you freak out and don’t believe in what you have achieved that you turn out to be something else.
So while you are busy working hard to find success, work on your emotions too. Prepare yourself on how you will handle success. Because once you get there, you won’t have time to prepare then, you will have to live the life.
The money, the fancy cars and big houses, they may all just be symbols of success. It’s only you who can give them a meaning. Money cannot buy you everything; there are some other things that aren’t for sale.
Money (or success) won’t buy you good health, happiness, a long life and every fine thing. There are many things you can acquire, but some you just can’t. You will die, you will fall sick that’s just the reality of life. Sometimes you can’t stop it; sometimes you just won’t be able to buy yourself out. Its life, there is more to it than being rich and successful.
You don’t have to be a victim of success. It’s not alright to be successful and find yourself a couple of months later unable to recognize yourself. Success should change your way of life but not you. Remember, its ok to be yourself even after getting successful. If you were able to attain success as you are, you surely can live successful as the same person as you once were.
So don’t forget your people just because you made it. They may not be on the same level as you are but sometimes they are the reasons you are who you are now. Embrace the people as they are, for they are more important than any dollar in your bank account. After all, what is success without people to share it with? Don’t let success hit you unaware, prepare for it.
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